What does our sleeping position say about us?

How do you sleep? On your side curled up in the fetal position, or on your back facing up? Your chosen sleeping position holds some secrets about you and your partner.



According to several sleep experts the position we choose to sleep is a form of body language and can shed some light into our personalities and states of mind. There are also some health issues that arise from different sleeping positions and interestingly enough they have something to say about our relationships. Curious yet? Okay lets look at the different sleeping positions then.

The First and most popular sleeping position is the fetal position (see diagram above) with about 40% of us choosing it. If you sleep in the fetus position, according to the sleep experts you are tough on the outside but sensitive on the inside and quite easy going. Moreover, in social interactions you may seem shy at first but you quickly open up and get quite sociable once you are comfortable.
Next is the Log position, which indicates a highly sociable and easy going personality who is extremely trusting, sometimes overly so.

The Yearner position is chosen by people who are open minded but at the same time cynical and stubborn.

People who choose the Soldier position are typically reserved and quite. They would typically have high moral standards and expect to hold themselves and others to these standards. Sleeping in the Soldier position may cause snoring.

The Free fall position is an interesting one because it is my chosen position and indicates an energetic and out going personality that does not take criticism very well. (I am working on it)

Finally, the star fish position is chosen by people who are good listeners and helpful. Again because they sleep on their backs this sleeping position may cause snoring.

There is some insight into the way couples end up sleeping that can say a lot about their relationships. This is because we are most honest in our sleep. We express ourselves subconsciously, which means that we don't really control what we do, so we express our most inner desires and feelings.

The most common sleeping position in the first few years of a relationship is the spooning position where both are in the fetal position facing the same direction and one partner (usually the woman) is cradled in the other. Generally, spooning is a really healthy position for your relationship if both of you are comfortable with it. It shows a healthy and trusting relationship, where one partner is comfortable enough to turn his back on the other, while the other partner shows a desire to protect their partner.

As the years progress, it is common for couples to stay in the spooning position, but create some space making it a loose spooning position. Still later on, when a family is formed and there are kids running around bringing joy to the house, many couples investing a lot of their love and energy in their kids during the day, feel the need for a bit more space at night. Then its common to sleep in the V-shaped hug, which is when the partners face away from each other and only touch with their bottoms to show some sexual connection. This position shows that the couple is very confident in their relationship.


Another common position is the royal hug position. In this position the man is lying on his back facing up and the woman rests her head on his chest or shoulder. For the man this position indicates a lot of confidence and somewhat desire to control and protect his partner. If the woman is facing her man in the fetal position, she enjoys his protectiveness. If however, she is lying on her back as well she shows her desire for control as well.

As you can see there is a lot to learn from our body language while we sleep. So pay attention to the clues and see what is going on in the lives of your loved ones and in your relationships. For greater detail about couples positions visit here.